Thursday, June 26, 2008

My Bucket List

Jason and I watched this movie last night. We were both sniffling by the end. Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson were great together. Afterwards of course we talked about making our own bucket lists. I asked Jason what he would put on his and he could not think of anything off the top of his head (but I knew something he would want and it was in the movie) and I already had a list of about 25 things. He looked at me and said, “I know, all of yours revolve around traveling.” Well most but not all. I’ve already knocked a few off my list so I won’t list those now.

The 1st 25 of my bucket list:

1. Be a mom. Whether this happens through my birthing a child of my own, a donor egg or adoption I want to be a mom before I die.
2. Travel to Italy
3. Sail the Greek Isles stopping in Athens to walk around the Acropolis
4. Hike the Grand Canyon
5. Tour Napa Valley and visit the Silver Oak vineyard for my favorite cabernet.
6. See a glacier up close and personal before global warming takes them all away
7. Convert my home to use as many green resources as possible
8. Watch my nieces graduate high school, college, dance at their wedding, see the birth of their children
9. Travel with my sister
10. See a Broadway show actually on Broadway
11. Kiss my husband at the top of the Empire State Building
12. Gaze upon the statues of Easter Island
13. Travel the West Counties of Ireland and stay at quaint little B&Bs
14. Find a creative hobby I am good at and attack it with gusto
15. Turn my thumb green. I’m really bad with plants so if I could plant something and have it live longer than a few months I would be so happy.
16. Learn how to change a tire
17. Lose this excess weight I’m carrying and keep it off for good.
18. Run a 5k
19. Learn to find my inner peace especially when the world around me is so crazy
20. Develop my relationship with God.
21. Dance around the gazebo from the Sound of Music in Austria.
22. Take a dance class, not ballroom dancing but hip hop or belly dancing.
23. Travel to Hawaii
24. Take an entire summer and drive across the US
25. Travel in a hot air balloon
26. Swim with the dolphins
27. Find a really cool piece of sea glass on the beach
28. Share the city of Charleston, SC with my husband
29. Pay off all of our debt including our house!
30. Hold my breath for longer than a minute

Decks, pets, and acupuncture

J has finished our deck. Ok, not really finished but the floor is down so we can actually walk across the deck. Railings will come later as we want those lovely PVC white railings & posts and they are not cheap. Luckily our deck is only about 3 feet above the ground at its highest point. As we have no children yet and we do not throw wild, drunk, crazy parties I don’t think we need to be too concerned with anyone falling off the back and suffering serious injury.

As the deck is now complete we were also able to put together the canopy we purchased at Lowes before we even began building the deck. It was a PITA to assemble. Jason was so frustrated at one point he decided to try out for the Olympic javelin team as he tossed a pole across our backyard. His form needs some work. In moments like this I leave him alone because not only will I make the situation worse but he always finds a solution once he lets go of his frustration.

We rearranged the canopy a couple of times to determine the best location. I will need to make some outdoor curtains to cover the sides as we get the hot afternoon sun back there but by doing so we also may be able to combat (HA) the mosquitoes.


We also decided to spoil our pets a bit last week. Teddy loves his face scratched and will drive you nuts rubbing his face against your hands, your legs, your feet, your pen, the laptop, the speakers, envelope corners, the corrners of boxes etc. We were not positive he would like or even use the brush bristle scratchers they sell at Petsmart but we took a chance. He went crazy. I think the picture below perfectly captures his kitty orgasm as he rubbed his chin and cheeks on the brush.
We also bought Shadow a bed of his very own. He's not allowed in our bed because we would wake up looking like him....covered in black fur. He's a massive shedder. During his May grooming appointment we made the decision to shave his fur as short as possible. We figured out he was getting cold at night post shave because he started sleeping on a stack of blankets I had in the corner of our bedroom. We figured he would like a bed of his own. He loves his new bed. He went nuts over it when we brought it in the house and told him it was his very own bed. He rolled all over it making it his own and more than likely removing the smell of other dogs who sniffed or laid on the bed prior to our purchase.

I had my acupuncture consultation last evening. It went well. The doctor(I'm not sure if I call him doctor or not), measured my meridian channels and determined I was a good candidate for acupuncture. I asked him if our sessions would not only help my fertility but also my migraines and gastrointestinal issues and he said yes. I'm very happy about that. Jason said he would be ecstatic if the acupuncture would keep me from puking when I eat certain foods. I know he would love to introduce pizza back into our life. At the moment the only pizza I thought I could tolerate was CA Pizza Kitchen BBQ chicken pizza but I had a puking session the other week after eating that so I guess that one is off the menu for now as well.

I had to recall moments of bodily trauma which was difficult. I was a tomboy growing up so I can't tell you how many times I sprained an ankle, fell out of tree, wrecked my bike etc. I tried to recall a few of the more significant traumas such as falling off the uneven bars when I was four and smacking my noggin, or the cheerleading incident in which the basket toss went wrong and I ended up splayed out face first on a hard cement floor, or playing Dodge Ball in middle school when Dwayne Moses threw the ball directly at my stomach hard enough to knock the wind out of me and make me spin around before falling on the floor. If Dwayne Moses is the reason I can't have a baby I'm going to spit nails!

Needless to say I guess I'll be taking a loan out against our unborn child's college fund to pay for 3-4 acupuncture sessions a week for the next month.






Wednesday, June 18, 2008

In the words of Dr. Allie G.....

My eggs are rotting. Y'all remember the crazy doc from The Bachelor(Dr. Travis season). Bad humor I know but this is what went through my head when the RE gave us our results today.

Let me back up a bit. The first results we went over were the results of the blood test for FSH(follicle stimulating hormone), LH(luteinizing hormone) and prolactin. My FSH & LH are on the higher side. Not the highest but higher than they should be. What does this mean? Basically I'm perimenopausal. Sally reassured me I'm not going to start menopause tomorrow, next week, next month or even next year but my body is definitely beginning to change and move towards menopause. My mother began menopause in her early 40s so I may very well be following in her footsteps. As you approach menopause your body produces more FSH & LH to stimulate your follicles to mature eggs because your egg quality begins to diminish as you approach menopause therefore it takes more FSH/LH to stimulate those follies to mature eggs. So right now, for me, this means I am not producing enough or perhaps any high quality eggs. This was so very hard to hear. I was doing my damndest not to cry but Sally looked at me and said it's ok honey and gave me tissues and I broke down into tears.

The lab had not sent J's semen analysis results so Sally called the lab and they faxed them straight away. This is the good news. J has super sperm. No kidding. Sally said she never sees men in her office with sperm counts that high. Basically in every milliliter of semen J has over 600 million sperm all barreling straight ahead toward the motherland. The result they normally look for? Anything over 20 million. He's such an overachiever. LOL. He exceeded the minimums in every category. If my eggs were good we'd have a litter of kids with his sperm count. Sally said he's the perfect sperm donor.

Sally next consulted with theOB/GYN at her office to schedule my D&C ASAP. She wanted to do it Friday but I absolutely cannot be away from the office on Friday. We met with the surgeon and his nurse and Darlene, the nurse told me she would call me first thing in the morning as the surgery center was already closed. We were shooting for tomorrow but we have an appointment for this Monday at 8:15am. I have to be there at 6am and then they'll will put me to sleep. The procedure itself takes 30 minutes and then I have the rest of the day to recover.

So what does all this mean for us as far as our options. Not a whole heck of a lot. I cannot be on any type of hormone fertility treatment because it is possible the hormones will shock my system into menopause. Also, because the egg quality appears to be lacking the hormones won't help egg quality. Retrieving/freezing my eggs is a last ditch effort because of the possible bad quality. For now our plan is this. I take prometrium on CD35 if my period has not arrived and I'm not pregnant. I call Sally on CD1 and she will begin monitoring my follicle growth via U/S. Once she sees some good looking follicles J and I will DTD. She may give me an HCG trigger shot if the follies look promising to ensure ovulation. She'll test progesterone depending upon the follicle growth. We'll do this for however long we feel comfortable and sane. After that we can revisit the egg retrieval option but most likely our best bet would be a donor egg and/or adoption.

At this point we are racing against my biological clock. This sucker has never ticked louder than it is right now. So I'm supposed to remain relaxed about this and not stress. Yeah sure. That is so much easier said than done but I'm going to try my hardest to remain cool for the next few months. The sex on demand thing is worrying me because I'm worried J's going to have performance issues but he's vowed to do whatever it takes. He was great throughout this and remains Mr. Positive which is both wonderful and frustrating right now.

I talked to my parents, my sister, Amy and J's mom and sister about everything which has helped somewhat but the tears are still there, just below the surface and they are flowing frequently.

Please y'all please pray for us. think positive thoughts. I really could use them right now. It is so damn hard to be told having a baby is going to be difficult or almost impossible when it's something you want with all your heart and soul. I need to learn to accept that whatever His plan is we'll be fine and with a lot of prayer and soul searching I hope to come to terms with whatever the outcome may be.

Monday, June 16, 2008

The SHG

This morning I had the much dreaded, much anticipated SHG which is a sonohysterogram vs the HSG which stands for I don’t know what and involves dye. Mine involved air and saline.

I made J run out with me last night to purchase some Midol. I don’t normally take ibuprofen as there is this possibility (urban legend? Not sure) it interferes with conceiving. I’m not taking any chances there. I still consume caffeine—you know the other dark meat. So this morning I was up early, before J to shower and get ready as I made my appointment for the ungodly hour of 8am. I arrived in plenty of time and filled out my paperwork. The receptionist gave me an information sheet that described the procedure in detail. Such as we will then insert a catheter through you vagina into your cervix. Lots of detail I was not necessarily keen to know because I’m squeamish. After signing my name I tucked the info sheet into the dark recesses of my purse and tried to put it out of my mind. I was the first to arrive at the office so I was hoping for a minimal wait time and within 5 minutes my name was called. The ultrasound tech explained the procedure yet again….seriously people I don’t want to know. She then told me to empty my bladder and undress from the waist down.

First up was the vaginal ultrasound or more affectionately the dildo cam. Complete with a condom. I respect Mr. Dildo Cam-he practices safe sex. The U/S tech dug around in my vagina with Mr. D.C. causing me to do my version of Lamaze/Yoga breathing. My uterus looks good, good size and shape, nothing lurking there. My right ovary was more difficult to find. Apparently I had gas. LOL. I almost asked her if she needed me to fart but thought better of it. She moved to the left and took a few pictures of my left ovary. Then back to the right. After much prodding and poking(thank god sex does not feel like that) she was able to push the gas bubble away and take a few snapshots. At the top of my cavity however she detected something not so good but reassured me the doctor would take a look.

Next the doctor came in. Why do doctors feel the need to make small talk while their head is in your crotch? I mean honestly please just get in there and do what must be done and let me get on my way. I really don’t want to hear about how you injured you elbow this weekend or the tractor trailer with the lost load of watermelon. Anyway, he talked me through the entire procedure explaining what he was doing as he went. The worst aspect for me was cleaning my cervix. That was uncomfortable. Soon the saline and air were inserted which resulted in slight cramping but the last biopsy I had was more uncomfortable. I saw the bubbles on screen and the air/water shot straight through my left tube. Same with my right so that is a relief. The baby making passages are open. :D

However, that thing the U/S tech saw at the top of my uterine cavity? There is definitely something there. It appears to be a polyp. The doctor explained there is a strong possibility of an embryo attaching to the polyp instead of my uterus meaning the embryo will not survive as it will not receive any nourishment, therefore this is a concern. However, the issue is easily rectified. The doctor mentioned a D&C to clear out the polyp. We’ll find out more from Sally tomorrow. Hopefully, we can schedule that quickly. The doctor was surprised to learn I do not have abnormal bleeding through my cycle. I told him I never have and my periods last between 5-6 days. He said that could be abnormal. I’ve never been told that is a concern before so I’m not sure what to make of that.

I called J to give him the news and he asked the question I had been wondering since I left the office. How long has that been there? My last vaginal U/S was in 1998 for a lump around my ovary which turned out to be nothing. So we have a 10 year time frame to look at. Who knows.

I hope we get more answers at tomorrow’s appointment. Yesterday J’s dad looked at me and asked, “Do you think I’ll be a grandfather next Father’s Day?” I told him I hoped so. Only time will tell.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Sweet Relief courtesy of Dave Ramsey

I paid off 3 bills today. Woot! My timeshare, my LAST credit card and Jason's student loan. Done, finito, GONE! I get to call Cap. One when I get home this evening and cancel that card then shred the little bastard! It was nice to wipe out 3 debts like that today. We have two small debts left before we hit the big ones, truck pymt, a personal loan, my student loan and the 2nd mortgage.

Monday, June 9, 2008

The latest in my infertility

With the arrival of AF, I dropped by the doctor's office today to donate a little blood so they can test for a few hormone levels. I also scheduled an appointment for next Monday at 8am to have air and water flushed into my female regions to check for blockages, scar tissue etc. I've heard the procedure is not pleasant and can be painful. Ibuprofen is a must prior to the procedure and a friend even suggested valium. I think I can manage with Ibuprofen. My pain tolerance is low but not that low. I just whine a lot. I'm hopeful for not pleasant considering I must return to work after I see my tubes on TV. Then the next day armed with all of our results from the sonogram of my uterus & tubes, the bloodwork and J's semen analysis we sit down with our doctor and discuss the next step. I did buy a Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor in April so I can finally give that a try this cycle. I set it up on Saturday so I'm just waiting for it to begin asking me to pee on a stick.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

And the RE said.....

The appointment with the RE went well. We both really like her. J thought she talked too fast but I talk fast so I’m oblivious to that on most occasions. She talked with us for about an hour, took our history etc. I did take a pregnancy test since I’m so very late even though I told her the HPTs I took were negative. Results are negative.

She told us she works in 3 months plans. Once we have some testing done she’ll make plans for the next 3 months, if no success, the next 3 and so on and so forth.

First she gave me a script for Prometrium to induce AF. I started the pills last night and will hopefully have AF within the week.

Two, I have to call on CD1 to schedule CD2, CD3, or CD4 bloodwork where she will test for FSH(follicle stimulating hormone, LH(luteinizing hormone) and Prolactin. My OB/GYN already tested my thyroid etc so she won’t repeat that test yet.

On CD1 I will also schedule a airsonohysterogram(I think I am spelling that correctly). This procedure will look at my tubes, uterus and ovaries to look for blockages. She said in lieu of dye this uses air and water. It sounds interesting and a wee bit weird. She uses this test instead of the dye just in case I have an allergy to the dye. The test will have to be done the day after I stop bleeding and no later than day CD10 based on the length of my typical period.

J has to go in ASAP for an SA(sperm analysis). He is kind of nuts at work right now so once that calms down, hopefully in the next day or so I’ll schedule him. I’m a little worried about his performance. I know he is dreading it more for the comfort factor than anything else. I think he is embarrassed about having to do the SA at all. Our RE reassured him all men that come to her office feel the same way.

A few things she mentioned just from our talk and looking at my charts is that I may have a problem with my luteal phase as there seems to be a long time frame between my ovulation and AF starting. She’s not going to bother with my progesterone levels yet because my OB only checked on CD21 regardless of when or if I O’d so she feels the results from the last 4 cycles are not accurate. She may put me on Clomid again but not until after the 1st round of tests. I am to stop charting immediately which isn’t a big deal since I put the thermometer away several weeks ago. She said she will handle all the testing and whatnot and will instruct me if/when I need to temp or use OPKs. She reassured me that she’ll know and that her goal is to find out what is going on to help us conceive!

I'm feeling very positive and hoping for a resolution. My worst fear would be unexplained infertility or an unfixable issue like a complete tube blockage.

Monday, June 2, 2008

T- 1 day

Tomorrow is the BIG day. We go see our RE. I'm either going to be massively disappointed or very happy.

AF is very late. No, I'm not pregnant. I've taken two tests and both were negative, unless I am one of those very rare women who NEVER get a positive HPT. I doubt it though as I did have a positive last year even though it did not turn out as hoped or expected.

Deck progress-Very slow. We have half a floor down. J bought 25 floor boards on Saturday, cut them later that day and screwed them in place yesterday. We need to purchase the remaining 27 boards this week or weekend. Railings will follow later as we don't have small children to worry about at this point and the deck at it's tallest is about 2 feet off the ground. We did opt for the composite decking for the deck floor so we are doing our small part to be green. We do happen to live in the 6 worst state for emissions/energy consumption.